By Doyinsola Ilori
I first appeared live, on Facebook a little over 7 years ago.
And had The DEEisReal Show, weekly, for years.
What did I do with it?
I talked about my failures in marriage, not putting all the shit on my ex.
Also, I’d talked about women’s many pretentious moves in matrimony, so that people can understand that people like me, who talk, fight, or the divorced, were not the worst set of women in matrimony, a reason several women didn’t like me one bit.
Truth is bitter.
I constantly hit them with truths about their fake lives, so they stayed away from watching.
Why did I stop airing it?
I was discouraged when I watched supposed sane adults prefer to watch curses and shows that were derogatory, insultive, abusive and just crass in their thousands. Shows they learned nothing from but others genuine secrets made public, and many times, lies upon lies cooked up, and spewed to the world to denigrate people.
BUT…
During my active times, inactive times, and anytime in-between, I HELPED, TAUGHT, and ENCOURAGED anyone who sought my help with how to go about staging a Show on Facebook.
Up to about a month ago, a friend started something, and asked that I shared it. Rather, I critiqued it, and gave a cash sum of N100,000.00 to him to fix the substandard issues first, after which I promised, I’d share him. (I didn’t say this to brag, because, what I did was between me, him and God, as my contribution to his growth.)
Why should I want to grow others at what I failed at?
To me, that I failed does not mean others should not succeed. And believe me, at my success, I’d have helped and encouraged many more to follow or tap from me. There’s no knowledge I have that I don’t give out, up to recognising the fact that many take advantage of me.
Why this long story?
The Hilda and Damilola issue yí náà ni.
I have never held anything I know back from anyone that is doing exactly what I do. Where I walked 5years to get to, I’ve fast tracked it for others in 6 to 9 months.
Fact is this, I AM RARE. I am not a norm. I’M SPECIAL and I know it. Many of you will never give even what you don’t need out, knowing it might be useful to others. Just so they don’t become more successful or better than you.
Not me, Ajokeade Ọmọ-Ayinde. I will give you everything and it doesn’t bother me if you are better than me.
It will ṣa be on record, with God, my contribution to your growth, even if you refuse to give me due credit.
I don’t wish that anyone should not be bigger than me. Family members and friends know this. I will tell you how you’d achieve the success. I even give most of my richer friends much more than they give me. They are alive, they’d read this.
I’m not greedy, and thankfully too, I’m not selfish, because the irony of life is that, most greedy people are selfish, and most selfish people are greedy.
I’m neither.
Maybe this is why I see nothing wrong with Damilola, my Ekiti young lady copy, (like many of you have repeatedly stated,) Hilda, the Akwa Ibom (?) girl.
I’d rather she copies a positive thing, than something negative.
That is me, Doyinsola Ilori.
That is who I am.
That is how God made me.
The people whom I better educated and helped to improve their Shows are alive.
The man I gave money to, to improve his show is alive.
I live.
And let others live.
I love to be emulated when I have a superior thing to offer.
Even as I rarely get anyone with better opportunities do same for me.
Still, I do it.
©DEEisReal
#yourbittertruthsayer
ADDENDUM
Maybe this is why God Himself stands up for me in many bad situations.
Who knows?
Maybe that’s why.
Ta ń mọ̀?
- Doyinsola Ilori Publisher of DEEisReal, first published this piece on her Facebook Timeline