In Genesis 2:23, “And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Many people have made this verse of the Bible a marriage verse, claiming that God gave Adam the bone of his bones and flesh of my flesh. But that is not true.
When Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. He was not saying that in the context of marriage. Never. Rather, he said that in the context of identity recognition.
Up until that moment, there was no one of the same identity or recognition as he. All the animals were in pairs, male and female, but he was just all alone, no one in comparison with him.
Genesis 2:18, “And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
The word comparable simply means able to be likened to another; similar.
Likened means the resemblance of someone or something.
Resemblances, the state of resembling or being alike.
Resembling, to have a similar appearance to or qualities in common with (someone or something); look or seem like.
Which means what God said then was that ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper who will have a similar appearance to or qualities in common with him.
Confusion and misinterpretation of the scriptures step in when some of us pastors are too busy to sit down and study or when we were too excited in the course of preaching and we start to add our head knowledge to the scriptures.
Multiply Bible translations further confuse the integrity of the scriptures, forgetting that the publishers of the Bible are there to make money and not to spread the gospel, and the more varieties of translations in circulation, the more money they make.
To make us believe that Genesis 2:18 was a statement made in the context of marriage, other translations gave us different words to replace the original word “comparable”.
NIV: “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
TPT: “Then Yahweh-God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. Therefore, I will fashion a suitable partner to be his help and strength.”
MSG: “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”
Companion, a person or animal with whom one spends a lot of time or with whom one travels.
Oxford Dictionary, “companion” generally refers to a person who spends a lot of time with you, either as a friend or on a trip, and can also mean a person employed to live with and help someone.
I laughed when I read how the New Webster’s Dictionary of the English Language described the word companion.
com•panion, a person who goes with or accompanies another,
- a traveling companion, someone who shares another’s experiences
- a person or animal whose company one enjoys
- a thing made to match or harmonize with another
- a woman paid to live with and help another
- a member of the lowest grade of an order of knighthood.
The beauty of the Lord’s creations and the intents of His heart for creating human beings especially the Women will continue to elude us in as long as we continue to spiritualized and religionized the scriptures.
God did not give Women to Men to be wives; Adam made them a Wife, not God. The only thing God did was to separate the Woman from the Man.
It is a lie that God created Man first. No. God created Man and Woman on the same day in the same body. Genesis 1:26–27, Then God said, “Let Us make man (human beings) in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man (human beings) in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
This verse of the scripture gives us a perfect identity of who God and the host of heaven are. They are neither a man nor a woman, he is both in one body. God said, “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man (human beings) in Our image, according to Our likeness…So God created man (human beings) in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
Male and female, He created them, but what was in physical existence was just one person. How come?
The male and female who were created were spirit beings, not physical beings. To exist in the physical, they have to be formed as and Genesis 2:7 “the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.”
The breath of life the Lord breathed into his nostrils of the Man He formed that made him a living being was the male and female He created in Genesis 1:26–27. He deposited the two created entities in one single body, and in Genesis 2:8, “The Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden, and there He put the man whom He had formed.
What was the purpose of having Adam in the garden? The answer is in Genesis 2:15, “Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.”
Now, the workload in the garden was too much for Adam alone to handle. According to Genesis 2:19–20, “Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and every beast of the field. But for Adam, there was not found a helper comparable to him.”
So, out of compassion for Adam, and to ease the workload on him, God decided to bring into the physical realm the female part of him that is embedded in his body. And in Genesis 2:18, “the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Then in Genesis 2:21-22, “the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs (the female part in him), and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man, He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.”
Was the woman made for him to be his wife? No! The woman was made into physical realm to help him out with his day to day duties, activities and responsibilities not to be his Wife, but his helper to achieve physical results.
But Adam out of his short sightedness turned his helper into his wife. The same mistakes many people are still making today. Turning their friends or helpers into a wife and suddenly, the beautiful friendship they shared turned sores.
Genesis 2:23–25, “And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
God called her helper, who is of a similar appearance and have qualities in common with him, but Adam called her a Woman and later a Wife; the perfect description of a companion, – a woman paid to live with and help another.
And true to that, you pay to have any woman in your house. They called it dowry and there are several types of dowry.
In biblical times, dowries were a significant part of marriage arrangements, symbolizing the bride’s value and solidifying the union. For clarification, here are some types of dowries mentioned in the Bible:
Monetary Dowry: A payment made to the bride’s family, often negotiated based on the bride’s social standing and the groom’s wealth. For example, Exodus 22:16-17 mentions a dowry payment for a seduced virgin.
Service-Based Dowry: Instead of a monetary payment, some grooms offered their services to the bride’s family. Jacob worked for 14 years to marry Rachel and Leah, illustrating this type of dowry (Genesis 29:18).
Deeds of Valor: In some cases, deeds of bravery or valor could be accepted in place of a dowry. David was asked to bring 100 Philistine foreskins as a dowry payment (1 Samuel 18:25).
Land or Property: Dowries could also consist of land or property, as seen in 1 Kings 9:16, where Pharaoh gave his daughter a city as a dowry.
Gifts: Gifts to the bride or her family were also a part of dowry arrangements, as mentioned in Genesis 24:22 and 53, where Abraham’s servant gave gifts to Rebekah and her family.
Written Marriage Contract: In Jewish history, a written marriage contract often specified the nature of the dowry, providing a clear understanding of the terms.
A woman paid to live with and help another person can be described in various ways, depending on the context and nature of the arrangement.
Live-in caregiver: A person who provides care and support to someone in need, often due to illness, disability, or age.
Domestic helper: A person who assists with household chores, cooking, and other domestic tasks.
Personal assistant: A person who provides personal care and support, including managing daily tasks and schedules.
Companion: A person who provides companionship and emotional support, often in addition to practical assistance.
Home health aide: A person who provides medical care and support in a home setting.
This is a typical full house wife person. If this is what your Woman is to you or if this is what you are to your man, both of you a doomed for life.
God gave Eve to Adam to help him with his daily duties and responsibilities, not his house or bedroom.
If you cannot work hand in hand with your husband or Wife and achieve the impossible results, then you are not married, you are only wasting your life and your time.
The question of who makes the best wife and what constitutes the best marriage has been debated for centuries. With the evolving roles of men and women in society, the dynamics of marriage have changed significantly. In this article, we’ll explore two contrasting scenarios: a woman who runs a joint business venture with her husband and a wife who knows nothing about her husband’s business. Which one makes for a better marriage?
The Entrepreneurial Wife, a joint business venture. A woman who runs a joint business venture with her husband can bring numerous benefits to the marriage. Here are some advantages:
Shared goals and vision: When both partners are involved in a business venture, they share a common goal and vision. This can strengthen their bond and create a sense of unity.
Mutual respect and trust: Working together in a business requires trust, respect, and effective communication. These qualities can translate to a stronger marriage.
Financial benefits: A joint business venture can provide a sense of financial security and stability, which can reduce stress and anxiety in the marriage.
Intellectual stimulation: Running a business together can be intellectually stimulating, and both partners can learn from each other’s strengths and expertise.
However, there are also potential challenges to consider:
Blurred boundaries: When work and personal life blend, it can be challenging to maintain a healthy work-life balance.
Increased stress: Running a business can be stressful, and this stress can impact the marriage if not managed properly.
Different opinions: Business decisions can create tension and conflict if partners have differing opinions.
The Stay-at-Home Wife focuses on family and personal life. A wife who knows nothing about her husband’s business may have a different set of priorities and responsibilities. Here are some potential benefits:
Focus on family and personal life: By not being involved in the business, the wife can focus on family, personal growth, and other interests.
Reduced stress: Not being involved in the business can reduce stress and allow the wife to maintain a healthier work-life balance.
Supportive role: The wife can focus on supporting her husband and family, creating a nurturing environment.
However, there are also potential drawbacks:
Lack of intellectual stimulation*: Not being involved in the business or other intellectually stimulating activities can lead to boredom or dissatisfaction.
Dependence on the husband: The wife may feel dependent on her husband for financial support and decision-making, which can impact her autonomy and self-esteem.
Limited personal growth: Without involvement in the business or other challenging activities, the wife may not experience personal growth or development.
Which Marriage is Better?
Ultimately, the best marriage is one that works for both partners. Both scenarios have their advantages and disadvantages. A joint business venture can bring benefits like shared goals and mutual respect, but it also requires careful management of stress and boundaries. On the other hand, a wife who focuses on family and personal life can create a nurturing environment, but may miss out on intellectual stimulation and personal growth.
Rather than focusing on which scenario is better, it’s essential to identify the key elements that make a marriage successful. These include:
Effective communication: Open, honest, and respectful communication is crucial for any successful marriage.
Mutual respect and trust: Trust and respect are fundamental to building a strong and healthy marriage.
Shared values and goals: Sharing common values and goals can create a sense of unity and purpose.
Emotional intelligence and empathy: Emotional intelligence and empathy can help partners navigate challenges and conflicts.
The best wife and marriage are those that work for both partners. Whether a woman runs a joint business venture with her husband or focuses on family and personal life, the key to a successful marriage lies in effective communication, mutual respect and trust, shared values and goals, and emotional intelligence and empathy. By prioritizing these elements, couples can build a strong and healthy marriage that brings fulfillment and happiness to both partners.
Whether you choose a friend, a partner or a wife, be smart enough to choose someone resembling, what you want; someone who have a similar appearance or qualities in common with you ; someone who is of the same mental, emotional , spiritual, physical and intellectual qualities just like you.
Even if the person is not financially like you are. But have the same financial intelligence as you and can plan finances and manage things with you.
