Charles Oputa, popularly known as Charly Boy, says his 40-year-old marriage to his wife Diane has not been easy and `still dey leak’ though they are not giving up on each other.
Charly Boy, who took to his Instagram page to give an insight into his marriage, said that every marriage has its issues, including his own, adding that he and his wife agreed to never give up on each other.
Charly Boy said further that “marriage is management “and not everyone will get married or get it right.
Below are some of the extracts:
“Some people think say marriage na moimoi.
“How dem fit know say no be everybody God create go marry.
“I don swim many rivers for dis my 40sometin year marriage.
“Don’t for one minute think our marriage is made in heaven. It has been through Hell many times over, we still dey patch am, e still dey leak.
“We have our issues, problems and challenges (never for public consumption)
We disagree on many things sometimes.
“The ONLY Thing we basically Agree on, is never to give up on each other.
We both go die here I think
“Biko enjoy ur weekend for marriage is management.
“May God bless your Union too.’’
While that was Charly Boy’s view his wife was more elaborate on their marriage in a previous interview…
Why do you think celebrities marriages have short life span?
Celebs marriages are not different from any other marriage; however, the bottom-line is that both parties have to know what they want from the start. For most young people it’s about the packaging and never the content. Marriage is about two people who want to stay married no matter the weather, if one person wants it more than the other it won’t work. The ingredients for a fairly decent marriage will be mutual respect, good communication between the couples and good friendship. Thank God that today what we have most is old fashion friendship. My husband is not your typical Nigerian person, above all he listens and he is very sensitive to how I am feeling as my friend and it’s all mutual.
What has kept the fire burning?
Charly can be unrepentantly romantic when he wants to be. Though he hasn’t pulled any stunt to sweep me off my feet recently, but he can be full of surprises. The last time, he asked me to escort him to the airport to receive a certain business partner from the Caribbean. Before I knew what was happening, I was on my way to the Bahamas, Sweden and Dubai, with nothing but my purse. He knows I love romance and from time to time he figures ways to sweep me off my feet. That’s why we try to keep it as youthful and as fresh as we can. We really work at it. It’s not easy but we are determined. Charles woos me with his outlandish and elaborate stunts, and I like it. I always look forward to my birthdays. We are like two buddies.
What has been the hard part of your union?
In the beginning it was the women, my gosh, women everywhere. Charles is a charmer. He had seven kids from his away matches and the women he married that didn’t work out, before we got married. His stubbornness was sometimes obnoxious. During his hay days as a performer, his acts were sometimes so overboard that I will refuse doing his background vocals and we always argued/quarreled about that. But as the years rolled by I found ways of calming him down, and curing my high blood pressure.
I later found out that the women were more for his hypes and pons, like the charly’s ‘girls’. One thing I knew from the beginning was that my husband always wanted to be a family man, after all he grew up seeing both parents together for sixty something years before papa passed on. Much later the women thing totally fizzled out. In the beginning I wasn’t too sure how to deal with all his children from different women, but trust Charles he knows how to put his family together. That’s how I overnight became a mother of 9 children plus my last three.
The only thing that he still does that annoys me till tomorrow is his silence, when he is angry about something. He will lock himself in his room and may not talk to me for days. I can’t deal with that because we talk all the time our communication is on point. He always says he doesn’t want to say the wrong things when he is angry. Otherwise, Charles is the best thing to happen to me and I thank God for that.
Charly Boy and wife 40-years seems like forever, how have you managed?
I have been able to manage very well because of the man I got married to. Charles is a strong family man, a decent gentleman who puts his family first before anything else. He has been a wonderful husband, a good father and a wonderful son to his parents. Charles is the husband every woman dreams about. He is sensitive, he listens, the first to apologize if he is wrong. I love his never say die spirit. I think we were ordained by God to marry each other because we both want the same thing; we are both committed to our marriage. Like they say, it takes two to tango.
However our marriage has not been a bed of roses, we have our issues and challenges, but because we are best of friends, because we are loyal to our commitment we always resolve whatever issue that comes up, to move forward. We don’t have a perfect marriage, no such thing in this world, but we have a friendship that has endured through time. It has been a long journey and we have had ups and downs within the 40-years that we have been together. But we are happy together. A lot of couples haven’t got that far-we are really privileged. I thank God.
Daily Trust Newspaper
