By Samuel Omolola Edema
As a successful Nigerian entrepreneur, Lola had everything she needed in life, well, everything, except for a partner to share it all with. Despite her achievements and social standing, Lola found herself attracting emotionally unavailable partners time and time again. She couldn’t understand why she kept falling for men who couldn’t commit or connect with her on a deeper level.
One day, Lola met Tunde, a charming and handsome man who seemed to have everything she was looking for in a partner. They had a great first date and hit it off immediately. But as time went on, Lola began to notice some red flags – Tunde was always busy with work and rarely made time for her. He would disappear for days at a time without explanation, and he seemed hesitant to open up emotionally.
Despite these warning signs, Lola found herself making excuses for Tunde’s behaviour and holding on to the hope that things would improve. She felt a strong connection to him and didn’t want to give up on their relationship. But as time went on, she began to realise that Tunde was simply not capable of giving her the emotional connection she craved.
Lola is most likely going to leave Tunde and blame him for another failed relationship, but can something be done on her part to improve her chances of finding love and a lasting relationship? If you are like Lola and you have found yourself ending a relationship on two or more occasions … This article is specifically for you … Read on
Attracting emotionally unavailable partners is a common challenge that many people face in their dating and relationship lives. It can be frustrating and confusing when we find ourselves repeatedly drawn to people who are unable or unwilling to fully connect with us on an emotional level. In this topic, we will explore some of the reasons why people may be attracted to emotionally unavailable partners and offer some suggestions on how to break this pattern and cultivate more fulfilling relationships.
The following subheadings highlight some common personal challenges that individuals may face in their daily lives. While it can be difficult to acknowledge and overcome these issues, there are practical solutions that can help individuals recognize their patterns, break free from past behaviors, take responsibility for their actions, build self-worth, and open their hearts to new experiences. By implementing these solutions, individuals can begin to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives.
1. You don’t recognise your own patterns:
If you find yourself constantly falling into the same negative patterns in your life, it may be because you’re not recognising them. The first step to breaking these patterns is to become aware of them. Try to take a step back and observe your thoughts, feelings, and actions objectively. Journaling and self-reflection can be helpful in this regard. Once you recognise your patterns, you can start to work on changing them.
2. You cannot stop repeating the past:
Breaking free from the cycle of repeating the past requires conscious effort and dedication. It can be helpful to work with a therapist or counselor to identify the underlying causes of your repetitive behavior. Learning to be present in the moment and practicing mindfulness can also help you become more aware of your patterns and break free from them.
3. You have not owned up to your own behaviors:
If you haven’t owned up to your own behaviors, it may be because you’re feeling shame or guilt. However, acknowledging your actions and taking responsibility for them is a crucial step in personal growth and building stronger relationships. Consider making a sincere apology to anyone you may have hurt, and take steps to make amends where possible. With time and effort, you can learn from your mistakes and make positive changes in your life.
4. You don’t believe you deserve it:
If you don’t believe you deserve happiness or success, it can be difficult to make positive changes in your life. It’s important to challenge these negative thoughts and beliefs by focusing on your strengths and accomplishments. Practicing self-care and self-compassion can also help you build a more positive self-image and increase your confidence.
5. You are not opening up your heart:
If you’re struggling to open up your heart to others, it may be because you’ve been hurt in the past. However, isolating yourself can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. Building trust with others takes time, but it’s important to take small steps towards opening up and connecting with others. Consider joining a support group or reaching out to a trusted friend or family member. Remember that vulnerability takes courage, but it can also lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships.
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