By Samuel Omolola Edema
Whether you’ve been off the market for a few weeks, months, years, or decades, getting back out there is no easy feat, especially if you’re not confident about how to start dating again. Common sense might urge you to be vulnerable, open yourself up for possible rejection, and be okay with the notion of meeting few bad eggs in the process of finding a compatible partner. This truly can be frustrating, but we what you are about to read, the frustrations will disappear.
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First, what is dating in relationships?
Dating in relationships refers to the period of time when two people are getting to know each other in a romantic and potentially committed context. It is a stage where both individuals spend time together to explore their compatibility, interests, and values before making a decision to pursue a more serious and committed relationship.
During this period, couples may engage in a variety of activities together, such as going out on dates, spending time together in social settings, communicating with each other regularly, and sharing their feelings and thoughts with one another. Dating in relationships often involves a sense of excitement, anticipation, and emotional connection, as couples explore the possibility of building a future together.
It’s important to note that dating in relationships can look different for different couples, depending on their cultural, religious, and social backgrounds. Some couples may choose to take things slowly and focus on building a strong friendship first, while others may choose to move more quickly towards a committed relationship.
Are you ready to find love again?
Let’s share with you how we helped Tunde to find love again.
Tunde who had just gone through a breakup with his girlfriend of two years, was devastated and didn’t know what to do. He felt lost, sad and alone.
One day, Tunde reached out to us and shared his dilemma. We could see that Tunde was in a bad place and decided to talk with him. We told Tunde that he needed to give himself time to heal from the breakup and that it was okay to take some time for himself.
We also told Tunde that he needed to reconnect with himself and find out what he wanted in a relationship. We advised Tunde not to compare himself to others and to take things slow when he was ready to start dating again.
Tunde took our advice and decided to try talking and chatting with a few ladies both online and offline… He makes himself look good and happy within his environment and the few places he could meet potential ladies like his worship center, corporate environment and social gathering. Suddenly he had two or three great ladies as friends he could decide to date… Tunde made sure to be honest with the ladies about his intentions and what he was looking for in a relationship.
After a few weeks of chatting online, Tunde met up with one of the ladies he had been talking to. They hit it off, and Tunde realized that he was ready to start dating again. He took things slow and got to know the lady before committing to a serious relationship.
Throughout the dating process, Tunde practiced self-compassion and didn’t beat himself up when the first attempt didn’t go as expected. He learned from his mistakes and also learned more about himself and what he was looking for in a partner.
In the end, Tunde found love again and was grateful for the advice we gave him. Tunde learned that taking the time to heal, reconnect with himself, and approach dating with honesty and self-compassion was the key to navigating the dating scene successfully.
You can be Tunde, Blessing, Funke, Emeka or Joy, as long as you truly want a relationship by starting to date again… this can happen to you, all we told Tunde is right here in this article.
Read on
Dating can be both exciting and daunting at the same time. Starting to date again after a breakup, divorce, or a dry spell can be a particularly daunting task. Whether it’s been weeks, months, or even years, getting back into the dating scene requires some mental and emotional preparation. Here are some steps to help you start dating again after a breakup, divorce, or dry spell:
Give Yourself Time to Heal.
The first step to starting to date again is to give yourself enough time to heal. Healing takes time, and it’s essential to give yourself that time to grieve, reflect, and process your emotions. Take this time to focus on yourself and your needs. Do things that bring you joy, such as spending time with friends, reading a book, or practicing self-care.
Reconnect with Yourself.
It’s important to take some time to reconnect with yourself after a breakup, divorce, or dry spell. Ask yourself what you want in a relationship, what you need from a partner, and what your deal-breakers are. Understanding your needs and wants can help you avoid settling for less than you deserve.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others.
Comparing yourself to others is never healthy, and it’s particularly damaging when it comes to dating. It’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough when you see others who seem to have it all figured out. Remember that everyone’s journey is different, and there’s no right or wrong way to start dating again.
Try Online Dating
Online dating can be an excellent way to ease back into the dating scene. It can be a bit overwhelming at first, but it’s a great way to meet new people and potentially find a match. Make sure to choose a reputable dating site, and take the time to craft a profile that accurately reflects who you are.
Take Things Slow
It’s important to take things slow when you start dating again. Don’t rush into a relationship just because you feel like you should be in one. Take the time to get to know someone before committing to a relationship. This can help you avoid rushing into something that may not be right for you.
Be Honest with Yourself and Your Date
Honesty is crucial when it comes to dating. Be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for in a relationship and be honest with your date about your intentions. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and don’t try to impress your date by pretending to be interested in something that you’re not.
Practice Self-Compassion
Dating can be hard, and it’s important to practice self-compassion throughout the process. Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t work out, and don’t take rejection personally. Remember that dating is a learning experience, and each date can teach you something new about yourself and what you’re looking for in a partner.
In conclusion, starting to date again after a breakup, divorce, or dry spell can be intimidating. However, taking the time to heal, reconnect with yourself, and approach dating with honesty and self-compassion can help you navigate the dating scene successfully. Remember to take things slow and enjoy the journey.
Good luck!
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Samuel Omolola Edema is a certified relationship coach with over 10 years experience and founder of ADAM & EVE community on Facebook. Adam and Eve, where we live, love, learn and share our opinions, knowledge and experience on Dating, Relationship and Marriage. Join us with this link 👇
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